The Arcturians via Sue Lie and Steve Bekow, July 15th, 2017

Sue: Yes, it is.

Steve: Close to mine as well, as you know. But of course in talking with the Arcturians today we are not just talking about sacred partnership we are talking about what they call, “synchronistic missions,” which includes people who are cooperating but not in a romantic relationship. So we’ll be taking the conversation out of the behind-the-screen aspect hopefully and into the this-side-of-the-screen aspect.

Sue: Well, sometimes people work together and they’re also in a romantic relationship but we’re talking primarily just about the relationship per se whether or not it is romantic.

Steve: Yes, and the agreement, the sacred agreement to work together. I have seen lot of affiliations or collegial relationships not weather this long wait that we’ve had for things like abundance or disclosure or even ascension. So I hope today to find out from the Arcturians and of course yourself as well since you’re a psychologist, how to make relationships work.

Sue: How to make relationships work… Yes of course.

Steve: Anything you want to say on that subject before we go to the Arcturians?

Sue: Well I think as soon as you said that, the first thing that came to my head is that the relationship that we have with our self is going to be dominant in the relationship we have with another person.

And so what is going on between our ears and in our heart is going to greatly affect the person with whom we’re having a relationship and the deeper the love and the deeper the bonding, the more it will affect them.

Because even if you act like you’re fine and you’re good and you’re cool and you’re all happy, they will feel it in a second and say, “Okay, what is wrong?”

Steve: I’m aware of that from even my short time in a relationship. Yes, indeed. So there is a need for a lot of honesty and Kathleen is fond of saying that “what’s without is what’s within,” as our opportunity to look at what is in the within that may be causing the without.

So she turns the spotlight clearly on the self. It clears out whatever vasana or core issue there is that’s going on. I admire that very much.

Sue: That’s a way that couples can really help each other because looking in the mirror is pretty hard to do. We forget that when you point one finger out, you have three fingers pointing back at yourself.

Steve: Yes, I think it’s something that’s going to have to enter into the culture, this practice of turning the spotlight inside to ourselves, rather than pointing the finger outside. We have some way to go on that.

Sue: Yes, and basically if we want to point the finger at somebody else that is like a message to our self that we need to go inside and say, “Okay, what am I trying to get out of, what am I hiding from? It was their fault?” Let’s just take a moment here, take a walk by yourself and sit down underneath the tree and say, “Okay, hi Self, how are you doing?

Steve: Right. The damage we cause from not doing that, I was going to say, takes the edge off of intimacy. But it takes much more than just the edge off intimacy.

But we’re going to be thrust into this if we’re going to now be getting together with people with whom we have synchronistic missions. This is going to be up for us.

Sue: Yes, and it’s kind of good news and bad news. It’s good news because you can understand that person because that person is like you. But the bad news is you are going to see your faults in that person and you’re going to want to get really upset with that person. Then you don’t have to get upset at your own self.

Steve: Yes, that’s right. There is also, I don’t know how to describe it but there is just this real difficulty, and you referred to it in the first few minutes, of taking that spotlight and turning it around. It just feels like this blaming the other person is natural, familiar. What’s wrong with it, you know? It’ll get them to do something, right?

Sue: And it is easy. It’s really easy. It gets you off the hook right there. Not my fault, not my fault, I’m just an innocent person here in this relationship. I didn’t do anything. Where did this come from?

If you’re in an intimate relationship it’s kind of like when people have those contests where people get on each end of a rope and they both pull the rope…

Steve: Yes, tug-of-war…

Sue: But the thing is there is just one rope and that rope is actually connecting those people and so they’re making a contest out of it instead of realizing, “Wait a second, we’re connected with this team!”

Steve: Yes, a guru that I once followed, to whom my girlfriend long ago and I would come, would give our relationship rings to her. And she’d say, “Still fighting?” And she’d say, “One. One. Ahhhh, but which one?” So, control, control.

We probably should get over to the Arcturians before we have a delightful hour ourselves and forget to ask them.

Sue: So you go ahead and ask away and I will just take a moment and bring in and connect with the Arcturians.

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Steve: Well, my first question is, you recently published an interview in which you talked about synchronistic missions, which could be a sacred partnership but not necessarily. It could be a collegial relationship. And you talked about it from your side, from that side of the veil, shall we say, and from our internal experience a little bit.

Well okay, here we are. We’re in synchronistic missions. We know we have made these agreements, etc. but you know that life has been very difficult here. We’re in a very dense vibration.

We often have not made a very good job of relationships. Could you please talk to us a little bit about the principles and precepts that would help us to make our synchronistic missions work from this point on, please?

Arcturians: Well, one of the things that we would like to begin with is that, when a couple comes together, their synchronistic mission is usually a combination of what each of them does themselves and so there is a two-way format.

On the one hand, each person – take even Suzille and her husband – Suzille has an issue so she comes to us, usually, and says, “Help! Tell me what’s going on here?”

Her husband doesn’t do that. He’ll go down and play his horn[he’s a musician] or take a walk in the woods or call up one of his buddies.

But each person needs to be allowed to find their own way to center themselves and then the other person centers themselves, and then, after they are both centered,  they come back. And so it’s like, “Okay, this is not going well. Let’s take a break.”

Like with children: you separate the children and you just take a break. Sometimes you know some of them will march off and some of them will march off the other way… Good because when you’re by yourself, instead of looking, “Well, that dirty dog” and “why did she do that?” …and blah, blah, blah, you are just there,  by yourself.

That’s when you need to go to your own inner guidance for each person, whatever their inner guidance is.  Whoever or however they have a relationship with their higher self, even if it’s a traditional church relationship, that’s fine. Jesus is an ascended master.

That is when it is a good idea to converse with a being that resonates to a higher frequency because the reason why it went wrong is that the frequency got too low: the frequency of the thinking, the frequency of emotion, the frequency of sharing.

It moved out of that unconditional love and surrender to the One and into the, “Well I don’t love you now because you are…and this is what I want.”

So each person has to recalibrate themselves back to that higher frequency of consciousness and however it is they do that and if they can actually have a dialogue, they can have a dialogue with the rock, a tree, with their self in the mirror.

In fact, a very important dialogue that we have told Suzille to do and she’s told many people is that you go in to the bathroom mirror because it has a lot of light on it. Close the door, Lock the door and look at yourself in the bathroom mirror and look in your own eyes, in your own eyeballs, in your own pupils. And when you do that, it’s like, “Okay, this is me,” “This is for me.”

And so when each of the two take the responsibility for what they did, not that the other person told them, “Well I’m mad at you because you did this blah, blah.” That can happen later.

What brings companies back, people back, couples back, even pets and humans back is, “Okay, I take responsibility for what I did. I realize that I did so and so and ouch, I’m sorry.” Ouch, I’m sorry. You know, I’m sorry is the hard part to say if you are sincere. If it isn’t hard, then maybe you are not being sincere.

You say, “oh yeah, I’m sorry, I’m sorry, I’m sorry” but that is not sincere. If you don’t feel I am sorry, then this person you have an intimate relationship with this going to say, “Aw, you are just talking” because they can feel if you can feel it.

Steve: Yes, we’re really quite acute in that area. We’re not so acute in a lot of other areas but picking up on those kinds of subtle signs…

Arcturians: … Placating, “Oh I’m so sorry, yeah, yeah, I’m really sorry honey. Let’s move on.” Its like, “Wait a second, I don’t feel sorry. I don’t feel that. I don’t feel that.” And that is why you need to seal it with a hug, even more than a kiss. Seal it with a heart-to-heart hug.

Steve: Absolutely. We lightworkers are also going to be working together as colleagues. I’m not talking about people in sacred partnership necessarily but other synchronistic missions and again, our lightworker skills in working together are not great.

It’s been a while since I was in the office, about 10 years. But certainly we didn’t have a means of resolving conflict among us. It kind of limped along. Do you have any principles and precepts that you want to share with us about collegial relationships, business relationships?

Arcturians: So, you mean when a romantic couple chooses to work together? Is that what you mean by that?

Steve: Let’s say everybody who works together and it may include some couples but usually doesn’t. Do you have any principles and precepts you can share for them making that kind of a synchronistic mission work. It’s more formal.

Arcturians: Yes, when there is a larger group and this is not a romantic group you’re talking about?

Steve: No, it’s not. It’s usually a project of some sort.

Arcturians: Yes, okay, if everybody can keep their eye on the pie, so to speak, if every person can have it be about the project instead of about their idea. “I have an idea where the… Hey you’re not listening to my idea. I will do my idea, okay.”

What happens then is you just said, “my” idea and then that person just kind of pulled themselves out of that group because they’re thinking “my.”

And so just like a romantic couple, what you are protecting is the love force that you have gained together. So maybe, personally you’d like to really bash that person and get really angry but then you take a moment and you think, “Oh, I don’t want to live with the consequences of that. I think I’ll keep my mouth shut.”

And it is the same thing in a group situation but it is a different type of emotion. Because there are more people there and if one person sticks out too much then that can be offensive to the other people in the group.

So when there is a group energy field, it’s pretty difficult to have one that doesn’t have at least one leader. It is a very difficult thing to do and, if people are able to achieve that, congratulations to them. And the way that they are able to achieve that is that they put the group first and themselves second.

Just like in a personal relationship, you put the relationship first and yourself second.

Steve: That brings us to selfless service. The organizations that seem to succeed the best are those that have a certain percentage of people who are following the precepts of selfless service.

Arcturians: Yes and when we say, “Putting oneself second” that never means that you would ever accept any kind of abuse or offensive behavior because then you are putting yourself last.

Steve: Nor will you stay up late every night and treat yourself poorly in that respect either.

Arcturians: Or let somebody be rude to you in front of the office or something like that. If anything happens that makes you embarrassed, then you need to deal with that because you have been diminished in front of the group. And that is the responsibility of the person who felt diminished to realize, “Okay, I am not a victim.”

“I refuse to be the victim here. I refuse to be the victim and I refuse to deal with this in a manner that that person dealt with that because that was hurtful. That was mean, that was embarrassing and so I choose to take the high road. I’m going to give myself some time. I’m going to meditate. I’m going to call some friends. I am going to do some automatic writing and read something that is inspirational and then I am setting up my plan.

And when I know when and how I am going to deal with it, then I am going to come back in strength and confidence, I will address that issue, calmly and clearly.”

Steve: Well, let’s look first at one part of what you said. You said, “Taking the high road.” I think my partner would call that living up to the highest vision.

Arcturians: Absolutely.

Steve: Can you talk to us a bit more about the high road because we’re going to be, both light workers in general and financial way showers in particular,  learning about the high road. Can you talk a little bit about it please?

Arcturians: Yes, the high road. We will give you an operational definition of the high road. If you were to see three roads, one road obviously goes down and you probably don’t think that’s a good idea but one road is flat so it’s a lot easier to travel.

But the high road is up. It is more difficult to travel but you go up. So what that means is that you go up in your consciousness, that you go inside of yourself and you take some time to commune with your higher expression of self or with your priest if you choose, or whatever each person feels a “higher” is, in alignment with spiritual.

So, taking some of that now (and spiritual doesn’t necessarily mean religious). Spiritual means that one looks at their spirit and, when they look at their spirit and bond with their spirit, they will have the ability to look at those people or that situation from the perspective of their spirit, of their Fifth-Dimensional self.

In their Fifth-Dimensional self, there is no such thing as separation. There is no such thing as victimization. There is no such thing as polarities. It just doesn’t occur. It just isn’t there.

Steve: It just doesn’t exist. I have mentioned this a few times on the blog because I continue to be aware of the value of this kind of experience I am about to describe in general.

The opening of the hridyam or heart aperture that caused a torrent of love to flow through me is an example of this higher-dimensional experience and knowledge that you’re talking about. I was given this experience by an Archangel. Three hours before a reading I had it and then went into the reading and he told me about it. And so, because the experience appears to be gifted to me, I don’t know how to tell a person to get there.

How can the whole world enjoy this kind of experience of the hridyam – the heart aperture opening and being flooded with higher-dimensional love?

Arcturians: We would suggest that for the sake of the audience that will be listening to this and for Suzille you could state a little bit about what the hridyam means?

Steve: Apparently the heart, the connection between the heart and the outer consciousness is sealed. Just as we have a belly button, for instance, we also have a hridyam, a little aperture at the breastbone, according to Ramana Maharshi.

When this opens briefly, we have a profound spiritual experience. When it opens forever, permanently that is, according to Ramana, it’s called Sahaja Samadhi and that is the same as the culmination of our ascension. It’s full liberation. No need to be reborn in the Third Dimension.

I had a full heart opening but it then closed again and it now opens a little bit and I get a taste of this higher-dimensional love but it doesn’t stay open completely. I’m not ascended, at least, not in the sense that we use the term.

Because it was the intervention of an Archangel I don’t know how to create that experience. How can the whole world have that experience?

Arcturians: Humans by definition cannot create that experience. That experience is created when the human is able to fully and completely merge with a higher-frequency being, and a higher-frequency concept.

Because it is of course the invitation to ascension and then that person could choose to ascend or they could choose to stay and assist others. And ascended Masters have all had that experience and they have chosen to stay to assist others before they actually did ascend.

So with that response, I am not sure if your question was answered so please respond.

Steve: Let me expand the discussion a bit, perhaps, if you will allow me and say that in my imperfect knowledge, enlightenment itself is something that is brought to us by God or by the angels. In essence, if I’m correct, we take maybe two or three steps towards God and God comes a mile. Now am I accurate in saying that?

Arcturians: What we would add to that is that humans don’t need to take any steps because God is within every one and so the steps aren’t really outward or onward. The steps are actually more inward.

Steve: Do I have the ability to cause an enlightenment experience or is that in fact way beyond me and I have to have God’s intervention, so to speak, or  angelic intervention.

Arcturians: We would not say the word “intervention.” We would say “assistance”.

Steve: Assisted? Can I do it unassisted?

Arcturians: Because the fact that you are wearing an Earth vessel means that you are an angel, ascended master, or a galactic who has chosen to take an Earth vessel to assist within this now. And one of the problems with that choice is that those who take that vessel to assist within this now, forget a lot.

But the heart remembers… their high heart. What you would call the hridyam Suzille would call the high heart….just terms. When that opens,  there is a community, a communing, a blending, an intermingling of the higher-dimensional aspects of yourself with your physical self.

Now your physical self could not hold all of that because it would just burn it up. The frequencies are far too high. But the physical self hasn’t taken that step of grounding it on the planet and best yet, grounding it and sharing it.

Steve: Can I go through this process unassisted? Is it possible to do that or is the assistance of God and the angels absolutely necessary for enlightenment?

Arcturians: The assistance is absolutely necessary but it’s not outside of you. It’s inside of you. It is your own inner connection to your angels and to your ascended Masters and to your Elohim and to the higher frequencies of yourself.

Steve: Given that it is an assisted process, I cannot therefore describe how it happens. When I turn to another and say, “Boy, ask for a heart opening or try and have a heart opening, it’s really wonderful!” I don’t know what to say if they ask, “Well, how do I do that?” I don’t know what to say because mine was assisted.

I didn’t do, well, I did but not in the moment. I didn’t do anything to help that process happen. It was completely unexpected. How can the world share in this kind of experience?

Arcturians: Each person will have that experience when they are ready for that experience. Because the energy field of that experience interflows in through the Third Dimension on a regular basis but if one cannot perceive it then one cannot accept it.

One’s consciousness and their perceptions are intertwined. When their consciousness is at a higher frequency, then their perceptions are at a higher frequency and the first part of perception that one experiences is a feeling.

Now some people will actually perceive an angel with their third eye so that can occur or they may perceive an ascended master with the third eye. Of course, [if you have] the most complete experience, it would be pretty impossible to walk around the Third Dimension like that and, as you’ve noticed, the people that have that experience live in ashrams in Tibet.

Steve: It’s pretty lonely having had that experience and not a lot of people around you have.

Arcturians: Yes, there is a lot of static.

Steve: I can see why a person would want to go to the Himalayas or something to be among people who know what it’s like.

Arcturians: Yes, well, there is that degree of peace. And where there is a multiple energy field that is holding the energy field. One person can hold the energy field for a certain amount of time. You even look at the ascended Masters and they weren’t holding that energy field all the time.

You know, Jesus went in and got pissed off that they were selling stuff at the church and ,you know, threw stuff all over the place. And you look at all of the ascended Masters. When they were wearing an Earth vessel, they had some human emotions!

Steve: When St. Germaine was upset with the French Foreign Minister he stormed out walking through the wall. He didn’t bother with the door!

Arcturians: He didn’t bother with the door. He didn’t care that that was going to freak them out. In fact I think he was a little glad that he freaked them out. He was like, “Don’t mess with me, I walk through walls!”